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« on: October 17, 2008, 12:37:57 AM »

I'm a single mom of two - ages 7 & 3. I work full time managing a customer service department and I go to school full time, nights, weekends & online. I always cook a hot meal, every night. I am neat and tidy and have this whole "domestic goddess" thing going on. I enjoy taking care of my family and would love to have at least two more babies and a husband to take care of (I was never married).I'm getting to the point where I'm 27 and just wondering when is it going to get easier? I suffer from anxiety/panic disorder and I worry constantly. My bills are always paid, but I get so stressed. All I ever wanted was a family - yeah the whole white picket fence thing.... I would love a husband to cook for, someone to talk to, someone to treat me like a lady... I'm certainly not a supermodel, but I'm not grotesque either. I consider myself intelligent - I have a 3.75 GPA. Generally I am a confident strong woman who doesn't let these sorts of thoughts get to me. Lately though, I'm so tired of coming home to have no one to laugh with (I have my kids and I love that - don't get me wrong)...  What is my deal? Why all of the sudden do I feel like time is running out on me and I'll never wear that white dress? Are there men out there who can accept a woman like me - with two small children, a career and serious goals for the future? Someone who shares the same interests as me - reading, writing, literature, decent wine, good food, Christianity, deep conversations about love and life and everything in betweeen, a good sense of humor who can laugh at everything including the reflection in the mirror - someone who loves the Victorian era - and feels that they belong there then instead of here now... of at the very least a country boy who enjoys simplicity in every day life, and appreciates the sunrises and sunsets and takes very little for granted? No drugs, minimal alcohol... How cliche does this sound - but do these sorts of men exist anymore? Or am I destined to be just me and the kidlets forever? How does someone like me with very little extra time on her hands find this?God I sound so pathetic. LMAO.
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« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2008, 04:41:38 AM »

Thing will get better i just know it. Join some kind of group, organization of some kind, or somewhere to meet single mother and/or fathers that are in the same situation you are. I know things must be difficult now, but it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job managing everything, you should be proud. Keep you head up, and get out there, have a little fun, I'd even suggest going to the gym, ymca that is a great way to release stress and meet new people. Please answer my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlvqUm_3lSABOXZJeTL5ECHD7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20081026063925AAXzecz
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« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2008, 08:45:19 AM »

Pathetic? no. i don't really have the experience to say whether it gets easier or not, but i see lots of potential for it to. Relationships come down to finding the right person, someone who the differences don't matter, just being with them is enough. Like you said your a strong person. Sound to me like maybe you need a bit of a break. Like you said your a strong person, I'm sure you'll find someone but remember you'll always have your friends to so keep them close.
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« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2008, 12:49:00 PM »

I really understand how you feel. The hardest part, is learning to be OK with the way your life is, THEN you will find what you are looking for. HOWEVER, what you are looking for may not come in the package that you think it will come in. It seems to me that you know EXACTLY what you want, which is good and bad. It is good because you have a goal. It is bad because not every every person is going to be exactly how you want them to be. It is difficult being a single mom. Let friends know you are single. Don't be afraid of blind dates. Enjoy the here and now and when you go on a date don't daydream about this guy picking out that picket fence for your house! Just let things be how they are going to be. I know that sounds hard, because it is. I am dealing with this same thing right now. A really good thing to do is go to the library or even look online for articles on being the best person you can be. Better yet get the book "Love Smart" by Dr. Phil. That really puts things into perspective Smiley
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« Reply #4 on: October 17, 2008, 04:52:41 PM »

There is someone for everyone.You must be patient with love though.It will come when your not looking for it.Of course these type of men exist you just have to be willing to get to know someone. Try to get out more; Dedicate a part of your week to having some "me time"
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« Reply #5 on: October 17, 2008, 08:56:22 PM »

Honey you are blessed. When I was 19 I was single with two kids. I worked full time with as much over time as possible and had 18 credit hours in school. I literally used my textbook chapters as our reading time with one in each arm using strange voices.  I thought life was hard then I really did. I never took the time to look at how blessed I was. Shortly after my son passed away and I quit school and changed careers. I got married and even had another child. I realized during my grievance period that I just wanted my life back. Now I am here again Single with two kids here with me. I work full time again and I am signing back up for school next semester. I can't replace my son nor will I try to make up for his loss. However, I have lived the life that looks easy and I have lived life that was worth while. I think life worth while is the only life we need. Enjoy the little time you get in your chaotic schedule. It's not about the quantity it is about the quality.
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