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5yrs. on and off we have been together now. i have know doubts that we love each other,but his alcohol prblem is ruining our relationship! if i walk out on him now i believe his disease will kill him because no-one else in his life cares about it! he tells me he'll quit but it never happens and i'm affraid for his life! i love this man and want so badly to help him but i'm just not sure how??? please,anyone out there have any advise for me and my situation i could really use you help? he has already been in a rehab treatment twice and relapsed twice. he has seen a doc. who gave him meds. to ease the withdraw and he drank with the meds.    please help!

I understandI was afraid to enter the bedroom, afraid I'd find him deadI told my boyfriend I would leave him if he drank one more time.I left him about one hour later.He stopped drinking to get me backI came back and told him I would leave if he ever drankhe believes me, because I did leave that one timethat was 27 years agostill togetherstill no drinking

You're putting a lot on yourself here.  It's not you that's the alcoholic, it's him.  Maybe losing you will be the thing that makes him finally realise what he's doing to himself and to you.  Staying with him just gives him the message that you'll put up with anything he does, so he's just going to carry right on drinking.  Tell him if he has one more drink you will leave, and follow through with it.  No ifs, buts or maybes.  Gone.  You're not helping him by giving him second chances all the time.