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my husband and I have have problems throughout the entire time we've been married.  We have 2 children.  He has been to treatment for alcohol, and now is in treatment for Rx pain meds.  He's been diagnosed bipolar, and has done everything under the sun to me that is negative - he's physically abused me(once), he orders porn from our tv company and runs our bill up...(he can get it free on the internet or he has movies, he has called sex lines, he charges on my credit cards (in my name only) without me knowing, he has frequent visits to the hospital that last for 2 -4 days.  Everytime he's away, I think it's my chance to finally escape this marriage.  Now he's in rehab again, I want to finally escape, and I've been open w/him this time about it.  I will take my kids there today and he wants to tell them he's not coming back home.  Is this is a good idea or should we wait until he's out of treatment..to sit and talk.  They're already trying to understand why he's gone now.  They're 6 & 7I really think he's using this (telling the kids while he's in treatment) against me.  Trying to make me feel bad because we know the kids won't be happy about this.I DON'T LOVE DRAMA! Where's the drama?? I don't want him to talk to my kids about this today.  Again, I think he's trying to use it against me.  I don't think it's the time or  it.  I am looking to see what others think.  I'm not involving my kids in this messy situation, they just know daddy is at the "hospital" right now and will be home later.  It's nothing new for them to know he's in the hospital.  That is half my reason for wanting to leave.  He's unstable!I know I say I'm ready to leave, when I'm ready for him to leave.  The home is mine, I have the job- who knows what divorce would do to the house, but I plan on keeping it, so my kids do get to stay at home, they won't have to go anywhere - it's getting him to leave and stay gone is the problem.  He always finds a way to weasel back, but I'm FIRM this timewith what I want and need for me and my children.

Quit thinking about yourself. Your kids matter more. Get the F out of there now. No reason to wait around "because you love him" love yourself and your kids and give them a life worth living. Not a sad excuse for a life because mommy can't bring herself to finally leave. You and they have suffered enough. Rip it off like a bandaid and go. When your hubby gets his act together he can see the kids. Until then he has given up his right to be a parent. It is obvious he can't even take care of himself. Maybe this is what he finally needs to get himself together. Good luck. Take care of your kids.

please dont bring your kids into this. This is not there problem. its yours. IF the already have an understanding for what is going on already then, they might have questions or concerns for them selfs. u need to have a talk and fully explain in away the is understanding to them. if you really want to leave your husband then do it but do it in a matter that is thoughtful and good for the kids cause I'm sure its hard on them to see what is going on. GOod luck!!

dont drag the kids in!!!!!!!!they are too young just say goodbye and leave you are going to make this too painful to him

There are times in our life that we have to make a descision like you did when you got married. I think this is another time in your life that you have to put your feelings behind you and think of your children,do it while you are strong as if you are weak you would wish you did it before,take care of your children it is your duty as they are your responsability now, than if you have time tackle the other problem. This is only my opinion. Goood luck. God Bless you.

Yes I think it is time for you to leave for your children and yourself. When he gets out then you 2 can meet and go over the details on how it will work for visiting the kids . Maybe by then he will realize he has made a mistake and get some real counseling to see what he should have and could do to get either you all back as a family or just close friends for the kids sake. Good luck. This is hard decision that you will have to make on your own. But remember you are making to better your and your children's lives. They are More important then worrying about your husbands at this moment.

If you are fed up then leave him, all these fights are not good for you or the children. Lots of Luck